2023, in bullet points
I find myself consumed by an assortment of random thoughts, as we reach the end of the year, and as the sun aims downward for one last sunset, I’m going to try sharing them… in the form of bullet points!
- In January of 2023, I got to interview John Darnielle of The Mountain Goats, because he guest-starred on an episode of Poker Face and one of the cool things about working for a publication that’s largely focused on music is that all I had to do to get his reps’ info was ask a colleague. It was a good, fun interview, and he gave me his direct phone number in case I needed to ask him any follow-ups, and I actually did have something I needed to clarify.
So I called him a second time, and during that second call, I told him the thing that I’d held back during that first interview, because I’m always on the fence about how much to say to people about how much I love their work: I told him how much I love the song “This Year,” how I blast it every New Year’s Eve and scream along in triumph, because it’s so much easier to sing “I am gonna make it through this year if it kills me” on December 31st. I don’t have a transcript of that second call, but I remember he took the compliment with practiced grace, saying something along the lines of “Thank you for saying that, because it means I know I did at least one thing with my time on this earth that helps people.” - That’s often what I think about, when measuring my accomplishments for the year — what are the things I did that made the world a slightly better place, on a big or large level?
- I know I wrote a lot. Wrote stuff I was very proud of and wrote stuff I was less proud of, but sometimes that’s what happens. Got into a good groove with Wren Graves at Consequence, who became my default editor early in the year and has proven to be annoyingly good at noticing when a piece could be better and pointing that out. It’s good to have an editor who is a lovely and generous person and who also knows your flaws (like, for example, the fact that I maybe repeat words a little too often; if Wren were editing this, he’d send me back this paragraph with the word “good” in bold three times, and he would be right to do so).
- Did a lot of interviews, even with the double strike shutting down a lot of opportunities, and checked a few people off the ol’ bucket list. (I don’t know why John Cho has eluded me for years, but achievement unlocked, thanks to The Afterparty Season 2.) It is still a bit baffling to the awkward-ass adolescent who lurks inside me that a significant part of my job is talking to famous people, and that I may be pretty good at it. (Sorry Wren.)
- Hit my second anniversary at Consequence, an outlet that lets me get weird when the occasion calls for it and always offers up new challenges. (Got a couple of big challenges already in the works for January, which I’m doing my best not to think about until January 2nd.) It’s a small but mighty team, and I’m happy to be working with them all.
- Got elected to the position of secretary on the Television Critics Association board, which has also presented a wild new array of challenges, but the other board members are great and Winter Press Tour is on! ::knocks on any available wood nearby::
- I tried as much as possible to be a person who says yes to things, especially if they might lead to wild new experiences. Saw more friends and more theater and live comedy than I have in years past, which makes me happy. (Especially when I can combine the friends WITH the theater and live comedy.)
- Also got to spend a good amount of time with my family, who are cool people that I just genuinely enjoy spending time with. Even went on a gosh-darned vacation with them, to Ireland and Scotland, which was overall pretty magical. It’s funny how when you’re a kid, going on a bus trip to look at pretty scenery sounds very boring, and yet when you’re an adult, that’s just a really wonderful time.
- Continued two streaks of approximately equal length: sobriety and daily usage of Duo Lingo. Both have been rewarding in their own unique ways.
- Thanks in part to Duo Lingo, I learned how to type é and ü characters on a keyboard, which isn’t a huge deal necessarily, but I have been typing on computers for nearly the entire span of my life (started around three or four years old) and so learning a new trick, after all this time, was pretty exciting. You go around thinking you know everything there is to know, and then you learn a new thing, and it makes you excited to find out what else there is to learn.
- That’s the energy I try to bring to every year, even a year like 2023, which on a global level was undeniably pretty garbage, especially the way it set the stage for 2024 being potentially worse. I donate money to big and small causes and take public transit whenever I can and only spend time on Elon Musk’s Twitter when it’s absolutely essential (someone has posted a link to an adorable cat video). I know I could be doing more. I hope I’m doing enough, and try to exceed “enough” when I can.
- I had to take a break from writing this just now because I’m in the middle of my second-favorite New Year’s Eve tradition: Doing laundry, so that when I get home after a casual hang tonight, I can curl up in my nice clean sheets and wake up like a big toasty cinnamon bun. Best way to start a new year, in my opinion.
- While handling laundry, I’ve been watching The O.C., and it feels like a true portent of good things that my rewatch has brought me to the New Year’s Eve episode, even though this means the arrival of Oliver, who I recall being Bad News.
- Still, this reminds me to mention that the book I can’t stop recommending to people right now is Ben McKenzie’s Easy Money, a surprisingly fun read that left me almost feeling like I understand crypto (and definitely makes me think I understand the grotesque human cost of it).
- That last bullet point also strongly indicates that I should try to read more books in 2024.
- I’m writing this, like I write pretty much everything, in Evernote, and out of laziness I’m going to post it to Tumblr because that should be relatively easy, but I do want to write more personal stuff in the new year, and might look into setting up a new blog or (non-Substack) newsletter for such a purpose.
- But I’m also continuing to work on novels — 500 words or so a day, every day I can, until it starts to add up to something. I’ve developed a lot of daily practices over the last two and a half years: I journal every morning, go running every other day, write my 500 words in the evenings after logging off work, and keep my Wordle and Duo Lingo streaks alive, amongst other things. And they all contribute to me feeling saner and stronger than I remember feeling during the worst periods of my life to date. Worse days may be coming. But I’m glad to be starting the new year with… well, with clean sheets, at the very least.
- And before I go out for the night, I may jump around the apartment and sing.
Auld Lang Syne, bitches. Good luck to us all in 2024.
